Hey!
Please do not judge that I am from a village/town and I am writing about my experience with a whole new set of City people when i relocated or something like that. NO!
This post is somewhat similar to what i wrote, but, in the sense that I was brought up alongside people who were hard wrung people, if you know what i mean. And, I am from a city. Born and bred! The biggest city in the nation!
And, then I came to college. And, quite obviously, I met a new collection of people. I met people who were as "gawar" as a person can possibly be. Without any scope of sophistication. But, that was pretty much expected, wasn't it? All of our's parents have told us that we shall meet new people and they shall be different. Well. I was a bit taken aback by the "difference". And i am not talking about the aforementioned kind of people. I am talking about the city people. People from the biggest cities of the nation. And these people turned out to be even more pathetic than the village guys. Even you might have encountered such kinds of people in your life? Schools, Friend circles, Parties, Workplaces, etc?
Some usual characteristics of such people are that they have been brought up in a hugely, i mean it HUGELY, protective atmosphere. Where every need of theirs, be it emotional or material, was catered to in a top priority manner! They sneeze once and their parents take them to the doctor for a possible case of cold or pneumonia. Excuse me guys, but are you SERIOUS?! Do they not understand that the more they protect their children, the more weak they'll turn out to be. Scientifically speaking, if they do not encounter any disease, the anti-bodies won't be manufactured by the natural system of their bodies. And, after they move out from their parents' gracious presence, they will fall sick in the outside. And, then what will these parents do then?! Hmm? They would be regretting the fact that they grew up their kids in this manner. At least that is what i hope. At some point of time, they should realize that they have been wrong in their upbringing! And, these kids are normally the softest creatures around. The moment you say anything not so polite in front of them (read: frank stuff) they start crying and just run away. They go home every weekend or whenever they get an opportunity to just get back into that protected comfortable atmosphere/ambiance that their home and their parents provide. These kids do not know how to have senseful conversations with other people. The outside people. With whom we have to deal for the most of our lives. They can't get their work done themselves and often rely on others for getting even the simplest things done. Often, they don't even mind bribes and other immoral stuff to get their work done. These people have problems in sharing and accommodating with other people. They turn selfish to a degree that they do not give their stuff like shampoo or a bucket to even their roommates or classmates. And, all the "natak" that they do when things are not happening according to how they want them to happen! My God. "Dinner is not tasty as it was at home, we won't eat healthy food. Instead, we shall eat junk garbage like chips and cold drinks and maggi". This all really infuriates me. But, what can the third person do?! If you approach them and tell them that what they do and what they are is not right for themselves, they won't take your criticism in a positive manner, would they? They will get mad. Abuse you. And, I can't blame them for that. Well, totally. They have been brought up in this manner. They have lived a good twenty odd years in every comfort possible. Do you know who is to blame for their condition? The parents. The people who were responsible for their upbringing. Don't you agree with me? If the children had been taught from the start that they have to adjust with other people, share your stuff and eat whatever is given to you, don't you think that these stupid children would have been different? And, better? Hmm? These people often are found in groups of their likes only. Only few people have the patience to deal with such selfish snobbish people.
Another recent thing that i heard. "I can't sleep anywhere new, because, it's not my bed." I was stunned upon hearing this. This is what happens when people are not used to sharing. Not used to suffering the hardships and difficulties in life. This, in turn, does not prepare them for the brutal life that lies ahead of each and every one of us. People who leave their homes and start living in PGs and hostels start cribbing after not a long time (the maximum was a week) about the efforts that they have to take, how they have to be outside of their comfortable homes, the not so tasty food that they have to consume, and the list goes on. They cry about living without their parents, siblings, usual friends, etc. And, all i can say deep inside is that look dude. This is life. You will never be able to live with these people for the whole of your existence anyways. You simply have to learn to live without them. You have to learn to not cry that "why is my sister/mother not here" and "i miss my home" and all the other rubbish things people cry about. You have to learn to be alone and self-reliant. Because, in life, you can never be with all your close people for the whole of your lives. You just have to know that you will live alone. And, you have to be strong and you have to prepare yourself mentally for such an ordeal. Because there is no other way, my friend.
And, I literally thank my parents aloud that they made me aware of all the difficulties in life. That they made sure that I did not have a rosy comfortable protected childhood. So that now I can live the hard life without too many adjustments to make. Without crying unnecessarily. That now i can accept all the hardships in life with a chin up. Not fearful of the coming life. Not fearful of living alone, without my parents and the comforts! So, that i can live perfectly well in the hostile places that this world has. So, that i can know how to deal with all kinds of people. And, all this i have experienced. Painfully. I have been to a lot of places. Stayed there. Met the real worst kind of people. Who do not respect you at all. And i can gladly say that i survived!
I feel pity for the other kind of people. Well, because, they are not aware that a really hard life awaits them outside these walls, you can say. And that the life will blow the winds out of their mouth if they are not ready to adjust and live. I hope someone reads this post and maybe is able to get braver, stronger and is able to face the unkind world. I hope this helps someone...
Please do not judge that I am from a village/town and I am writing about my experience with a whole new set of City people when i relocated or something like that. NO!
This post is somewhat similar to what i wrote, but, in the sense that I was brought up alongside people who were hard wrung people, if you know what i mean. And, I am from a city. Born and bred! The biggest city in the nation!
And, then I came to college. And, quite obviously, I met a new collection of people. I met people who were as "gawar" as a person can possibly be. Without any scope of sophistication. But, that was pretty much expected, wasn't it? All of our's parents have told us that we shall meet new people and they shall be different. Well. I was a bit taken aback by the "difference". And i am not talking about the aforementioned kind of people. I am talking about the city people. People from the biggest cities of the nation. And these people turned out to be even more pathetic than the village guys. Even you might have encountered such kinds of people in your life? Schools, Friend circles, Parties, Workplaces, etc?
Some usual characteristics of such people are that they have been brought up in a hugely, i mean it HUGELY, protective atmosphere. Where every need of theirs, be it emotional or material, was catered to in a top priority manner! They sneeze once and their parents take them to the doctor for a possible case of cold or pneumonia. Excuse me guys, but are you SERIOUS?! Do they not understand that the more they protect their children, the more weak they'll turn out to be. Scientifically speaking, if they do not encounter any disease, the anti-bodies won't be manufactured by the natural system of their bodies. And, after they move out from their parents' gracious presence, they will fall sick in the outside. And, then what will these parents do then?! Hmm? They would be regretting the fact that they grew up their kids in this manner. At least that is what i hope. At some point of time, they should realize that they have been wrong in their upbringing! And, these kids are normally the softest creatures around. The moment you say anything not so polite in front of them (read: frank stuff) they start crying and just run away. They go home every weekend or whenever they get an opportunity to just get back into that protected comfortable atmosphere/ambiance that their home and their parents provide. These kids do not know how to have senseful conversations with other people. The outside people. With whom we have to deal for the most of our lives. They can't get their work done themselves and often rely on others for getting even the simplest things done. Often, they don't even mind bribes and other immoral stuff to get their work done. These people have problems in sharing and accommodating with other people. They turn selfish to a degree that they do not give their stuff like shampoo or a bucket to even their roommates or classmates. And, all the "natak" that they do when things are not happening according to how they want them to happen! My God. "Dinner is not tasty as it was at home, we won't eat healthy food. Instead, we shall eat junk garbage like chips and cold drinks and maggi". This all really infuriates me. But, what can the third person do?! If you approach them and tell them that what they do and what they are is not right for themselves, they won't take your criticism in a positive manner, would they? They will get mad. Abuse you. And, I can't blame them for that. Well, totally. They have been brought up in this manner. They have lived a good twenty odd years in every comfort possible. Do you know who is to blame for their condition? The parents. The people who were responsible for their upbringing. Don't you agree with me? If the children had been taught from the start that they have to adjust with other people, share your stuff and eat whatever is given to you, don't you think that these stupid children would have been different? And, better? Hmm? These people often are found in groups of their likes only. Only few people have the patience to deal with such selfish snobbish people.
Another recent thing that i heard. "I can't sleep anywhere new, because, it's not my bed." I was stunned upon hearing this. This is what happens when people are not used to sharing. Not used to suffering the hardships and difficulties in life. This, in turn, does not prepare them for the brutal life that lies ahead of each and every one of us. People who leave their homes and start living in PGs and hostels start cribbing after not a long time (the maximum was a week) about the efforts that they have to take, how they have to be outside of their comfortable homes, the not so tasty food that they have to consume, and the list goes on. They cry about living without their parents, siblings, usual friends, etc. And, all i can say deep inside is that look dude. This is life. You will never be able to live with these people for the whole of your existence anyways. You simply have to learn to live without them. You have to learn to not cry that "why is my sister/mother not here" and "i miss my home" and all the other rubbish things people cry about. You have to learn to be alone and self-reliant. Because, in life, you can never be with all your close people for the whole of your lives. You just have to know that you will live alone. And, you have to be strong and you have to prepare yourself mentally for such an ordeal. Because there is no other way, my friend.
And, I literally thank my parents aloud that they made me aware of all the difficulties in life. That they made sure that I did not have a rosy comfortable protected childhood. So that now I can live the hard life without too many adjustments to make. Without crying unnecessarily. That now i can accept all the hardships in life with a chin up. Not fearful of the coming life. Not fearful of living alone, without my parents and the comforts! So, that i can live perfectly well in the hostile places that this world has. So, that i can know how to deal with all kinds of people. And, all this i have experienced. Painfully. I have been to a lot of places. Stayed there. Met the real worst kind of people. Who do not respect you at all. And i can gladly say that i survived!
I feel pity for the other kind of people. Well, because, they are not aware that a really hard life awaits them outside these walls, you can say. And that the life will blow the winds out of their mouth if they are not ready to adjust and live. I hope someone reads this post and maybe is able to get braver, stronger and is able to face the unkind world. I hope this helps someone...
It's funny to read that the same guy who wrote a 'how-my-year-had-everything-crappy-and-nothing-great-happened just two posts ago has changed so much!
ReplyDeleteGood going :)
How is it funny?!?
DeleteDidn't really get you!!